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Pre-marital counselors can often spot these red flags

Before a Connecticut couple strolls down the aisle hand in hand with wedding music cascading over them, they should consider going hand-in-hand to a Norwalk pre-marital counselor or therapist. Talk to the counselor about any problems in your relationship and ask them if they notice any signs of coming problems that you and your betrothed should be aware of.

If more couples took that walk into a therapist's office, it's possible that fewer would walk into a family law court to settle disputes over property division, for instance, that could have been avoided entirely had they never been wed.

Some readers might be thinking that it's easy to spot flaws in hindsight; much harder to do before the nuptials take place. That's probably true for the layperson, but as the Huffington Post pointed out in a recent article, pre-marital therapists can spot red flags that are sometimes invisible to those who are blinded by love.

Let's take a look at a flag or two:

  • Name-calling: calling your partner demeaning names can "erode the relationship to nothingness," one therapist said. It's an expression of contempt that is really inappropriate in a relationship intended to last a lifetime. People also use other put-downs such as "You are acting crazy!" or "You are being ridiculous!" That sort of indirect name-calling can, in the long run, be just as damaging as the direct versions.
  • Trust: if you can't trust the person you are about to wed, you are probably making a bad choice to take that walk down the aisle. A lack of trust won't be mended by that stroll; it will eventually turn out to the "ultimate undoing" of the marriage, a counselor said.

If your marriage is headed for divorce and is plagued by your lack of trust in your spouse, the legal and emotional process might well be a difficult one. That's why it's so important to have a Connecticut family law attorney who is experienced in helping clients get through the process and come out on the other side whole, and ready to begin a new life.

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